Yesterday when I was out with one of my friend, he asked me a question. I bet everyone of you reading this post might have come across it, in some or the other way, in your life. He asked me that what is exactly the thing that differentiates the way you look and think about the girl you love and a random hot chick passing by? Usually what people say is that they don't fantasize 'things' about the person they love as they may do for a random person. But is it that couples in a relation aren't doing the 'things' ? So what is that thing which separates love from attraction?
Well if I speak in context of bollywood then guitars, violins and saxophones start to play whenever you come across someone whom you love. Sounds pretty unrealistic indeed but what it signifies is that there is an unknown feeling that arouses when you talk to that special person. So how to know if that feeling is indeed out of love or just an urge? Speaking of what I experienced is whenever you are near that special one you stop caring about the world. You just go into high impedance state for the entire universe but all you want to see and listen to is from that special one. Einstein's theory of relativity can help you too. Suppose you are sitting with the girl/boy of your dreams , say you are on a date, and it seems the clock is running too fast then consider you are enjoying the moment. On the other hand, if you feel the minutes are as long as hours then my dear friend you should apply the emergency exit strategy.
So is it that the fantasizing thing separates love from attraction? Before jumping to a conclusion, I would like to bring to your notice that love and sexual flings go hand in hand. I think couples who share intimacy are in a healthier relationship. So what is it that takes to differentiate between these easily amalgamable feelings? According to me, suppose if you see a random attractive person and try to remember him/her, how long can you do? How long can you remember his/her traits that pulled your attention? If you remember it for like a day or two or if you are talented enough (:P) then for a week , then rest assured it was just an attraction. But if you come across a person whom you can just never forget. Even at the middle of the night, amidst your sleep, if you are awaken and asked questions about him/her, you can definitely answer each and every detail precisely. This is called love. It will be like you will close your eyes and if you want to visualize him/her then you wouldn't find it difficult to do. If you pick up a pen describing him/her you will end up writting tens of pages still having more to say.
So here it is. I tried to answer you mate(referring to the person who asked me the same question).
Well if I speak in context of bollywood then guitars, violins and saxophones start to play whenever you come across someone whom you love. Sounds pretty unrealistic indeed but what it signifies is that there is an unknown feeling that arouses when you talk to that special person. So how to know if that feeling is indeed out of love or just an urge? Speaking of what I experienced is whenever you are near that special one you stop caring about the world. You just go into high impedance state for the entire universe but all you want to see and listen to is from that special one. Einstein's theory of relativity can help you too. Suppose you are sitting with the girl/boy of your dreams , say you are on a date, and it seems the clock is running too fast then consider you are enjoying the moment. On the other hand, if you feel the minutes are as long as hours then my dear friend you should apply the emergency exit strategy.
So is it that the fantasizing thing separates love from attraction? Before jumping to a conclusion, I would like to bring to your notice that love and sexual flings go hand in hand. I think couples who share intimacy are in a healthier relationship. So what is it that takes to differentiate between these easily amalgamable feelings? According to me, suppose if you see a random attractive person and try to remember him/her, how long can you do? How long can you remember his/her traits that pulled your attention? If you remember it for like a day or two or if you are talented enough (:P) then for a week , then rest assured it was just an attraction. But if you come across a person whom you can just never forget. Even at the middle of the night, amidst your sleep, if you are awaken and asked questions about him/her, you can definitely answer each and every detail precisely. This is called love. It will be like you will close your eyes and if you want to visualize him/her then you wouldn't find it difficult to do. If you pick up a pen describing him/her you will end up writting tens of pages still having more to say.
So here it is. I tried to answer you mate(referring to the person who asked me the same question).
Since you wanted my opinion here it goes:
ReplyDeleteI think there are quite a few things that separate love from attraction. I have know this rather hot female for a few years now, and all this time she was just a hot chick and nothing else to me.
However, in the last few weeks I have begun to see here in a new light, more than just a 'hot piece of ass'. I am still very attracted to her and her physical beauty. But something has changed. I have begun to fall for her, begun to watch her smile and not just watch her cleavage. I think I may have fallen in love. I love talking to her and we spend hours talking and I don't feel a bit tired sitting with her and talking late into the night. And it has been quite some time since i have found some girl i actually enjoy talking to.
Lets see where this goes.
And btw, guitars do start playing when I see her ;-) And when she comes close, oh god it's like jazz playing in the background.
All the best sirjee.. !!!
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